A friend of mine once said; “I don’t like introducing my girlfriends to my friends, because I don’t trust them. Who are you meant to trust? Your girlfriend or your friends?
That’s a question not worth answering now. Your trust should be with the one who undoubtedly cares for you, either her or him. Putting either of the two first before the other has its consequences, so think wisely.
Now back to the effects of friends on relationships. Taking a friends advice on a relationship problem shouldn’t always be your first point of call, think about the advice carefully before embarking on it (i.e. like a terror leader sending people out to die all in the name of religion, they don’t think be acting. Isn’t that stupidity).
Its result, if bad can be very painful, if good, all the better for you.
Before consulting a friend on possible solutions to problems which you are facing in your relationship, these are things to consider;
(a) Duration of friendship with friend; longer duration, possibly a truthful advice.
(b) Attitude of friend to present partner.
A good attitude, will lead to an honest advice.
(c) How good has your friend been with relationships
Solutions solve problems. Yes they do! But not all solutions works out for everyone, so I advice and I also give out a solution that works for all relationship problems. This solution seems easy while at the same time hard to execute.
As the old saying goes; “the solution to your problem lies within”. No matter what love doctor or friend advices you on, the decision is finally yours. So sit your partner down and address the issue, after the dialogue you will have a clear view of what to do.
Remember, your solution lies within your relationship. Friends come and go, so know that their advices will lead you to consequences which might be good or bad
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