A Little Love Every Now & Then Keeps The World Spinning.

A friend of mine once used this line in a conversation with me;
“Lionel, do u know that love makes the world go round?”
My answer was;
“How?”
And this was his reply;
Love means having a strong feeling for one, this strong feeling which we feel for one another sometimes could be mistaken for something else (Lust).
Love makes us do craze things, makes us cry, makes us laugh, makes us betray just for the one we love, makes us sing, makes us do things we never imagined we could do.
Least I forget, let me correct one wrong impression we all have about love, Love never makes you do crazy things instead you do things which are branded in the love-world as unimaginable.
“Peter stop wasting time and cut to the chase, how does the world spin with love?”
Imagine a world where everyone shows love freely without checking for abnormalities like; race/tribe, skin colour, deformity, class or social status e.t.c. Imagine a world where the rich open their doors freely to every poor man on the street to come-in and wine and dine with them. Imagine a world where each human life is equal irregardless of religion (Islam or Christianity).
What sustains this kind of world?
Answer: LOVE!

Here is a story of a friend of mine who had a girlfriend, who he claimed he was so much in love with. They had spent a total of 8years together going through thick and thin, ups and downs. Coming back when being separated.
On one of those occasions I asked him a question;
Why don’t you go look for someone else, instead of patching up all the time?
He replied; “Lio I cant imagine going out with anyone else, because Rebecca is the most beautiful girl I have ever met.

That’s nice! What should matter the most when it comes to the matters of the heart?
Looks, Beauty or Character?
Pick your best option, but mine is Character.
Relations based on looks, outward appearances are like time bombs waiting to explode and when they do just imagine the calamity they leave in their trail.
One person always stays hurt from such experiences and might pass it on to his or her next. Who becomes the victim?

The Cheater or Cheated?

Now do the Mathematics, if relationships keep on ending on a bad note and people keep on falling out of love what does that result into; a world full of hatred, distrust and wickedness.
Lets drop all our hurts from past experiences and try loving someone today, not just loving because we want to but because the world depends on it, and in the time to come maybe when we are no more the world will be a better place spinning twice as fast as it is now, because a little love every now and then makes the world go round.

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The A-Z of A Loving Relationship.

A-Abide N-Neatness
B-Beauty O-Obedience*
C-Care* P-Passion*
D-Daring Q-Quality
E-Endurance* R-Romance*
F-Faithfulness* S-Sexuality
G-Godliness T-Trust*
H-Honesty* U-Unity (understanding)*
I-Indulgence V-Virtuous
J-Just W-Wisdom
K-Kindness* X-Xample (example)*
L-Love* Y-Ying Yang (Female & Male)
M-Mildness Z-Zeal

Having a loving relationship entails more than the above listed, it asks more. But going by the above trying it out will help you in having a wonderful relationship with your partner.

There are 12 keywords above (*), pix up a dictionary, go through it checking those words, their meanings and how they apply to relationships and try them out in your life.

Also remember that if you are having any problem with your partner you can write to the email below for counseling and advice;
Lionel Gerald
lionel_gerald_007@yahoo.com

GOOD OR BAD; The effects of Friends on Relationships.

A friend of mine once said; “I don’t like introducing my girlfriends to my friends, because I don’t trust them. Who are you meant to trust? Your girlfriend or your friends?
That’s a question not worth answering now. Your trust should be with the one who undoubtedly cares for you, either her or him. Putting either of the two first before the other has its consequences, so think wisely.
Now back to the effects of friends on relationships. Taking a friends advice on a relationship problem shouldn’t always be your first point of call, think about the advice carefully before embarking on it (i.e. like a terror leader sending people out to die all in the name of religion, they don’t think be acting. Isn’t that stupidity).
Its result, if bad can be very painful, if good, all the better for you.
Before consulting a friend on possible solutions to problems which you are facing in your relationship, these are things to consider;
(a) Duration of friendship with friend; longer duration, possibly a truthful advice.
(b) Attitude of friend to present partner.
A good attitude, will lead to an honest advice.
(c) How good has your friend been with relationships

Solutions solve problems. Yes they do! But not all solutions works out for everyone, so I advice and I also give out a solution that works for all relationship problems. This solution seems easy while at the same time hard to execute.
As the old saying goes; “the solution to your problem lies within”. No matter what love doctor or friend advices you on, the decision is finally yours. So sit your partner down and address the issue, after the dialogue you will have a clear view of what to do.
Remember, your solution lies within your relationship. Friends come and go, so know that their advices will lead you to consequences which might be good or bad

Love Your Neighbour As Yourself.

Who is your neighbour?

Definitions from the New Webster’s Comprehensive Dictionary defines a neighbour as one living next door or relatively close to another, a person or thing situated near or relatively near to another.

I like to define a neighbour as someone living within your district at least one kilometer within your neighbourhood with whom you share a common interest.

New Webster failed to address something about that definition; that is someone living relatively close to you but doesn’t share a common interest or which you are not in good terms with, meaning he/she hates you; is your enemy.

Why Love Your Neighbour As Yourself?

Love doctors have various antidotes to various love problems, come to think about it life and love are interwoven, what you out into life is what you get out of it. Also, what you put into your relationship (good or bad) is what you will get out of it. Showing love to your partner gives him/her the idea that your love for him/her is never ending and genuine.

The mistakes most us make is to jump and take a deep plunge into a relationship not trying to stop and think if this person really cares about you. This is the first step to take after show love to your partner (neighbour).

I knew a guy who detested going out or getting to know any of his pals’ girlfriends, he just said no when invited on outings and dates.

He was pushed and persuaded but he stood his ground. One day, a get together was going on in his friend’s apartment that was about leaving the country for a year’s program aboard. While the party was going on the celebrant’s girlfriend had an asthmatic attack, instead of mike the boyfriend looking for a solution he was in the backyard drinking with some of his friends and when told what had just happened he just replied saying; I thought I told her to put her inhaler in her pocket.

Jake, Mike’s friend on hearing this, jumped up and ran out 5blocks away from the party to a pharmacy but it had been closed, he then remembered he had an asthmatic friend in his building. Quickly he ran over there, got the inhaler and got back to the party right in time to resuscitate the girl. While Julia was in the hospital getting better, Rashida her friend who was at the party told her all that had happened.

Julia felt bad and after she was discharged, she decided to go to Jake’s apartment to thank him. After doing that before leaving she put this question to him; Jake i was told by the doctor that if you hadn’t done what you did I won’t be alive today. Why did you go through all that stress to help me?

He replied say; I won’t be able to ever forgive myself if i didn’t get help for you, because hate seeing people in a helpless condition. With those words she felt loved, coupled with the stupid remark Mike had made the night of the party, she broke up with him some months after he traveled out and started a new relationship with Jake.

Now you can see how an unconscious act of love and care won Jake a new girlfriend and a happy life, it shows that loving your neighbour brings unlimited rewards, if not now maybe in the nearest future. So start showing love to your neighbour today, because love makes the world go round.

Tips to Successfully Maintaining a Relationship.

What is a relationship?

A relationship is a contract by two individuals (i.e. man and woman, woman and woman, man and man) who have a strong feeling for one another coming together to achieve their goals while being there to support the other. There are different kinds of support being rendered in relationships and they range from;

-          Sexual support

-          Financial support

-          Kids

-          Security

e.t.c.

Entering into a relationship for a selfish interest is one which leads to the total collapse of that relationship in no time. In our daily lives we go into one kind of relationship or the other, it might be a relationship with a person, company, group of people (i.e. association) e.t.c. what yields good output and guarantees the success of that relationship depends on;

-          Trust

-          sincerity

-          Understanding (ability to understand one another)

-          Sacrifice

-          Passion

No matter the amount of trust grown in a relationship, without first and fore mostly understanding one another that relationship will not stand.

-          Take time to understand your friend and also make a promise or statement in your mind to trust him/her no matter the circumstance, that’s one way to building successful relationships.

Though it might be hard but don’t rush it. “Patience is a virtue”.

-          Sincerity is a vital key in the success of relationships, being sincere at all times leaves no room for doubt or mistrust.

-          Sacrifice means truly giving up something important to achieve or receive a much needed item or want. It is in our nature to be tight fisted and not willing to give up things in the pursuit of a need.

Let me prove you wrong, giving up an important item to someone in need of it shows and tells well of your character and makes that person appreciate you the more. No matter how little, no matter how large, try to start sacrificing today. It might be love, money, sex, time, experience, no matter what it is, giving or sharing with another shows love and builds relationships.

-          Passion is the main spice to all relationship, a passionless relationship is like a glass standing on a needle which will soon fall and shatter into pieces, that is to say it has no spark. Passion means the ratio of your love for a particular thing to the ratio of your ability to do that thing or be with that person at all cost.

Relationships with a high storage of passion are always evergreen and stand the test of time. So learn and try to ignite the passion in your relationship.

All these points have been tested and proven to work, but they may differ in all individuals. Its work rate depends on how much work you put into each point so think positive, have patience, learn to trust one another while being sincere because that’s when you can only get to understand more about your partner. Ignite the passion in your relationship today by making sacrifices and see it blossom like a garden of flowers

“Patience is a virtue”---------Lionel Gerald